Tünde & Kornél: Every meeting is unique and cannot be repeated. It is only up to us whether we recognize the possibilities being there only for us in these meetings and how much we can utilize them. The chance is given for everybody, but only those will find the one for whom or for what they are looking for who are searching honestly and with clean intentions and heart. We consider it important to mention that we believe in God and finding the right one has been built on this faith and this faith penetrates our connection from the very beginning. Our meeting has only been one out of the many, but still different. We do not believe in accident and we are sure we had to meet. Since borders divided us, we managed to take first steps towards each other by the internet among the few possibilities being at our disposal. In life of both of us a long waiting and a long searching have preceded that moment when we experienced each other's existence. This first step had a critical importance.

Tünde: I worked as a social worker in my village Misca / Transylvania. Managing everyday issues of old people has consumed my time so that I almost completely forgot my private life. I started to feel more and more that I am alone.
People living around me ( parents, my brother, friends ) could not make up for that only person who could be a friend, a soulmate and a husband at the same time. One day I noticed an ad in the local newspaper from SzivNet Dating and Matchmaking Service. I began to think to answer the ad or not. I did not know if I could utilize this possibility and this way God would help me or not to find the real man. Finally, I decided to write and let God decide about all further things.
Long months passed without any answers, but later responses started to arrive. ( I was informed later that the service began its activity only at that time. ) However, no partner candidates could find the way to my heart. The psychical and emotional distances proved to be too big between us. I did not give up hope, but the thought of remaining alone in the future made me sad. I did not want to get married at any price, but I only wanted to find my second half. Waiting was very hard for me, but I had the faith that it is still worth waiting.
One day I received two letters. One was Kornél's. I could not read it right away because I had to travel urgently and I only had time to open the envelope on the train. He was the first who could touch me, his lines were for me and he wrote about what I also considered important. I felt warmth inside and I felt he was the one with whom I wanted to live together. I could hardly believe that it arrived for what I was so waiting for. Of course, I sent him a reply right away.

Kornél: One of my friends became unemployed and I browsed employment ads on the internet, perhaps I can find him something. There I read about a new dating and matchmaking service and I just visited the site for fun. I read a few ads and I found Tünde's ad there which awakened my interest.
I read it once more and once more again and who knows how many times later and a feeling deluged me which I had never experienced until that time. "I have found her. She will be my wife." This certainty grew so strong inside me that I looked even at myself curiously. I made the necessary steps to have Tünde's contact data from the service and soon I wrote her the first letter. A long silence followed. No reply arrived. I slowly gave up to receive any answers, but one evening I found a thick envelope with an unknown handwriting in my mailbox. I had the feeling as if I received a gift and I could hardly wait to open the envelope.

Tünde: I travelled to Holland and I thought as soon as I returned home, I would certainly get some answers from Kornél. I gave him my telephone number so that he could be able to reach me both at home and in Holland. To my greatest sadness, I got no calls and when I returned, no letter was waiting for me. To be more exactly, there were letters from other applicants, but not from Kornél. I got disappointed. After a long month the first telephone call came. His kind, friendly and direct voice is still in my ear and it seemed as if we knew each other for a long time. This short talking remained deeply in me and I was aware a period had been finished in my life, namely the loneliness and a real, eternal love began.

Kornél: The letter received from Tünde has strengthened her picture in me which my first imagination created. I wish everyone to feel such a good feeling which I experienced then.
After the long waiting, suddenly a hope emerged to meet quickly. What extreme things ! Tünde has crossed the area where I was staying during her journey, but unfortunately she went away already when I called her, so this sudden possibility could not be realized. That is why I replied her by post and I decided to call her back whenever possible.

Tünde & Kornél: Later we understood that we were not yet ready to accept each other completely then and we were glad that this meeting could not be realized.

Kornél: A week later I called Tünde at home. This was our first living introduction which has been short, but initiating the future meetings. Later on, we wrote each other several letters and once a week we could speak by phone. Every letter I received from Tünde was an oasis in this psychically deserted world.

Tünde: I cannot describe what a letter from Kornél meant to me. Simply all. Faith in God, faith in each other, trust, hope and love. I had a new life when I heard his voice and when I read his lines coming from his soul. He meant an indescribable happiness to me by then already.

Kornél: After two and a half months, we had a nice possibility to meet personally. Tünde had her birthday. We agreed on time and I went to her. There were strange feelings in me. I know someone in such depths that in many cases people do not know each other who live together for years and now I could even go past her in the street because I have not seen her yet.
Tünde's mother waited for me when I arrived and told me Tünde was not at home, she was in hospital. I got pale upon hearing these news. The kind reception and the possibility to see her in the hospital in the afternoon made me calmer a little. I could hardly wait to see that unknown someone who has been living inside me for weeks already. This meeting came closer and closer.
I saw her lying in hospital bed for the first time waking up from sleep and this meeting will be alive in me indelibly forever.

Tünde: Unfortunately I could not notify Kornél about my operation even though I knew he would come. Surely this inconvenient affair will result in a surprise for him and just on our first meeting. I was excited a bit, but I knew he was not a stranger for me any more. The very much expected time came and my mother, my brother entered the room and He. Yes, it was him. He embraced me, held my hand and a there was a thing which can happen between two people : "electric shock". Neither me nor - as I think - anybody in the hospital have seen a so happy patient as I was. We were shining from happiness.

Tünde and Kornél: Friends have met and we continued talking where we finished in our last letter. Something was, however, different. Sitting on the bed or walking in the garden we only held each other's hand taking no care of people turning around after us. What we felt, that must have been seemed on us which filled us completely. For a few hours the external world has ceased to exist. Hospital, illness, sufferings, people's misery. It was only happiness and we felt so that it radiates onto others as well. Other people in the room thought we were a married couple. They were still thinking advance a little, but we were glad that our environment had accepted us. When they learned that we met for the first time, they could not really believe that.

Tünde: We really spent two marvellous days together. These two days had a definitive meaning in our lives. We felt we found each other, that being together means I am not alone any more because with him I am much more and stronger.
I wish everybody from the bottom of my heart to experience this happy finding each other which we could live through from mercy of God. One is sure, it is not easy to wait. You can survive that difficult period of time with faith and clean intentions and feelings. You should not give up hope.

Kornél: Difficult times came. Again, letters and one phone call per week remained the way of keeping connection. Something has definitely ended in my life and I entered a new period. It was clear before me.
I finished to exist alone. Three weeks later Tünde had her second operation when I travelled to see her again. We met every day at the hospital, we talked for hours and we could not understand, either, what was happening to us. We agreed that after her hospital treatment she would come to me and she would spend her illness holidays with me. This step was our first decision indicating our serious intentions.

Tünde & Kornél: We still spent one week together and we knew we did not want to live without each other any more. We got engaged. We went back with engagement rings to Tünde's home. Our environment could not really follow up. One week later, we went to the registrar and reported our marriage intentions and after one and a half month we got married in the civil way. Further on, we still had to live far away from each other because our duties allowed no frequent meetings and so we saw each other in every second or third week, for a weekend. Two months later however, we got closer to creating our common life. We determined the time of our real wedding day when at church, we can take an oath on our intention. Then, our plans and dreams almost diminished within a moment.

Tünde: At the yearend, I passed my work over to my successor and we planned to spend Christmas holidays together and then we will prepare for our church wedding. Kornél will come to fetch me and we will go home definitely together. Regretfully, Kornél did not arrive at the agreed time. Moreover, hours passed and he did not come yet. My friend consoled me, but I knew something had happened because he had always been punctual until that time. I struggled my tears and I was worrying very much.

Kornél: I left for Tünde early in the morning and at a calm section of the road suddenly, two unlighted bicyclists turned before me. I jerked the steering wheel and because of this movement the car suddenly slipped and I could not keep it on the road. The car tumbled around and flew into a deep ditch. Fortunately I did not get hurt at all. The biggest pain was that I knew Tünde was waiting for me and I was not in the position to report what happened. Thanks to helpful people, leaving all behind in the afternoon I luckily arrived at Tünde's house after all.

Tünde: When Kornél arrived with an unknown car and told me what happened, I could only be grateful to God that he was alive and healthy. We will see all other things happen somehow.
Those certain other things happened as we planned and imagined to.

Tünde & Kornél: Everyone is looking for happiness on this Earth. We know our desires after happiness will not be fulfilled completely, but we know we can still be happy. This has its price which is not little many times. If we cannot take sacrifices for this purpose, we will be judged to be unhappy throughout a life.
We have to take great care of this happiness and guard it if we once got it, otherwise it may end in one moment. If we love someone, even our steps cannot be the same today as they were yesterday.

"I am responsible for my rose."